Another One Bites the Dust….

Another marriage, that is. Sigh…double sigh… I sincerely feel for Sandra Bullock.  According to published reports, her husband has been unfaithful. Normally the traumas and dramas of celebrities don’t directly affect me.  But, if the story is true, then I’m truly sad for Ms. Bullock. I’ve never met her so I don’t know her. But I am sad because I have personally lived  (the deja vu thing) the kind of pain she is probably experiencing right now.  To have to live and deal with it publicly must make it all the more difficult.  I can’t even imagine what it must be like – and I never want to know.

Why do people cheat?  I don’t know – wish I did.  But perhaps the question should not be why? but how can they?  How can they break their word, destroy their family (even if it just a family of 2), be so selfish, hurt (if applicable) their children? I don’t know the answer to the how either.

What I do know is this – “Simple Truth” alert – there are NO excuses for cheating. None, zero, zip, nada. Indeed, there may be a myriad of reasons – but no excuses. What’s the difference between a reason and excuse?  Simple : body parts -the head and the heart  By definition, “a reason” is an attempt to logically  persuade (the head)  on the basis of  underlying facts or causes that are the motives for an action, decision or belief.  In other words, a cheater might try to appeal to someone’s intellect to explain their actions. An “excuse”, by definition, is an attempt to explain an offense in the hope that it will be understood, forgiven, allowed, accepted and/or overlooked.  Excuses are used to tug at your heart.  You know, the “poor, pitiful me” approach.  I can almost always understand the reasons behind a behavior – that has to do more with psychology and circumstance. But please don’t insult my intelligence by expecting my heart to be touched by your excuses. Not when cheating leaves a trail of heartbreak, disappointment, devastation and pain. It is NEVER a good thing. Never.

So, again, the Simple Truth is that there is never an excuse to cheat.  And, there is no reason that will ever be good enough to justify cheating. Be good to yourself  (and others) and live your life with honor and dignity.  If  you give your word to someone – keep it, regardless of what anyone does or doesn’t do. Trust me, you’ll sleep better at night  and life will be much simpler because you won’t be complicating it with dishonorable actions.